Articles about Narcissists and Narcissism
ARTICLES ABOUT THE NARCISIST: DATING AND SURVIVING THE NARCISSISTIC PERSON
The Narcissist - a Legend in His Own Mind: According to the mythological legend, Narcissus fell in love with his reflection. Narcissus was legended (yes, I made that word up - but it fits soooo well!) to be an exceptionally cruel man who felt disdain for all those who loved him. As punishment for this he fell in love with his own reflection in a pool and subsequently perished alone alongside his reflection, never being able to leave his own reflection and find a true love outside of himself. Therefore he was sentenced to die alone never to have found a real love for himself, either from him or from others.
Surviving the Narcissist Rage and Narcisstistic Abuse: I don't know about you, but when it comes to surviving a narcissist, that's just what I'm doing -- surviving! But, let me tell you, it ain't easy to survive one of these!
Do not confuse narcissism with conceit. Many people make this mistake. Conceited people and people of overly high self-esteem or exaggerated self-importance do not always carry traits of narcissism. For instance, they can take insults, and they can go without admiration or accolades. Oftentimes --if someone doesn't like them -- it doesn't bother them, and if someone points out a flaw they may take it well, laugh about it, or even make a mental note to work on themselves to better themselves. They simply take pride in themselves, whereas a narcissist takes his very survival as being directly related to his perceived worth via others views of him.
Narcissist: The Passive Abuser: Passive abuse is just so precisely planned, so psychologically twisted – so mentally extreme – that it's hard to explain. And even harder to fathom if you've never experienced it.
New! Daily Inspirations for those Recovering from a Narcissist: Inspirations that will awe and inspire you with their acute accuracy, sympathetic perceptions and invaluable insights on recovering from a narcissist. Loaded with beautiful quotes, pictures, and thoughts to help mend and heal your broken hearted journey along the way; you will find these Inspirations a precious treasure trove of enlightenments to keep close to your heart for all time.
Narcissists Drive you Crazy: Can remaining in emotional control be abuse? It can – and is – when delivered by a narcissist!
Calm, rational level-headedness is a form of abuse, which the abuser uses to make you look crazy and out-of-control, after slowly and methodically driving you there. Once they get you to the breaking point, they get a sick-kick out of watching you 'lose it', all while they are remaining calm and 'keeping it together'.
15 Things a Narcissist Will Never Give Up & Will Never Change: My ex -- a narcissist through-and-through -- used to always say, “If you can't win 'em over with your charm, then dazzle 'em with your bullshit” -- a variation of a W.C. Fields quote, and a motto that he lived by as if it were the Golden Rule.
How Women Become Bitter: Women can have their soft, gentle, feminine innocence knocked right out of them. From Bad Boys, to Abusers, to Cheaters, to Users, to Narcissists, the list of creeps out there ready to disarm us is endless. ..
The Ex - The Ultimate Rejection:
Definition of 'Ostracism'
- noun: the act of excluding someone from society by general consent
- noun: the state of being banished or ostracized (excluded from society by general consent)
The Empty, Decayed Heart of the Narcissist: How can one explain a narcissist' heart? In one word: Absent.
The narcissist has an outer core - one of dashing beauty and spectacular wit, charm and intelligence. This is the 'image', the 'presentation' that a narcissist displays for his public; his followers, or his 'charmed circle' are the catalyst which he uses to bring his image to life. But it is not real. He is not real. There is no such man as the one he displays; it is only an image that you see. An illusion. Te narcissist is a Master Illusionist.
One Reader's Story: I am in the middle of a painful breakup with a narcissist. We had been together (if you can call it that) for 2-1/2 years. He is particularly cunning and deceptive...
Narcissist Much? Spotting a Narcissist BEFORE You End Up Feeding Him His Narcissistic Supply: After being with a narcissist for what seems like forever, I can now spot one a mile away.
Breaking up with a Narcissist - It is Possible: In certain relationships, the only answer to the problems is breaking up. One of those relationships is when one partner is a narcissist. Because of their personality disorder, they do not realize it when they verbally abuse you.
Narcissism - How to Spot it In Your Man: Because it is so difficult to get involved in a real relationship anymore, women often overlook tendencies their man has simply to stay in the relationship. One of these tendencies that women should not overlook is narcissism. If your man suffers from this, or shows signs from this, it might be time to end things with him for your own sake. Many people do not talk about this trait as being a problem for relationships, but that only is because they never had to deal with it. It is deeper than the man simply loving himself. It can cause grave relationship problems.
How to Make a Narcissist Fall in Love with You: I hate to say this, but for some reason I'm thinking that if you purposely choose to be with a narcissist -- and if you are attracted to his False-Bing -- then you must be a somewhat slightly narcissistic, too. Sorry :(
Narcissistic Behavior - Signs You are Dating a Narcissist: It is hard enough getting into and maintaining a relationship these days. There are just so many different factors involved in today's fast paced world that marriages and relationships seem more difficult to keep together. This is especially true for people who show signs of narcissistic behavior. If all your knowledge of narcissism revolves around people who love only themselves, you only are partially correct.
Surviving a Narcissist - Ways to Help You Help Them: Being in a relationship is difficult work. You have to balance your work and social life in order to have enough time and effort to put into your relationship. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, maintaining that relationship is even harder. Surviving a narcissist can be extremely difficult, and at some points impossible. Because they probably spend a lot of their time putting you down for their own pleasure, you may start to believe you are the problem in the relationship.
Wanted: Admiration: Everyone knows someone they believe to be narcissistic. That person is probably boastful, arrogant, and full of himself to the point that he's difficult to be around. It's too bad he's so kind and generous, because that makes it impossible to hate him. And let's remember, everyone has quirks—that's hardly a reason to deprive yourself of their friendship.
The Ten Weapons Used By a Narcissist During a Narcissistic Rage: Narcissistic Rages are a way a narcissist gets 'even' with you for making him face himself or his own imperfections. He often releases his rages *punishments* onto you by any or all of the following abusive tactics:
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined..
Narcissism Relationship Support - Both Sides Need Support: When you are in a relationship with a narcissistic person, it may be tempting to convince them into seeking support and treatment from a medical professional. Although this action is a wise one, you have to understand that you need support as well. You probably are so used to hearing his verbal abuse that you are immune to it.
The Narcissistic Man: A Rockstar or an Old, Fat, Washed-up Mouse? Narcissistic men have perfected their public image. They fear being compared unfavorably to others. They must be the best! Or are they? Are they really that good at their game that we can't see how really unattractive and unappealing they truly are?
Rejection from Partners with 'Issues': When we are rejected from someone we care about - especially if that someone has 'issues', faults, flaws, or personality disorders, we tend to take the rejection especially hard.
One Woman's Letter To Her Narcissistic Ex: I don't care who sees this page, and I don't care what they think of me. You have told them so many twisted lies about me that it really doesn't matter anymore. People who can't see the truth aren't those I want to associate with anyway. You know a very sagacious and wise man nicknamed 'Swami' once said 'Let's not burn our bridges'
Narcissistic Men - Why Women are Attracted to Them: If you ever have dated or known any narcissistic men, your love and hatred for them probably was geared toward the same attributes. It is easy to fall in love with this type of person because you do not realize what they are until it is too late. Many narcissists greatly lack self-confidence but are able to hide that by being smooth talkers and overly confident. When you are starting a relationship with someone like this, it is easy to be tricked into loving the person they want you to love, not their true self. In many cases, you do not realize he is narcissistic until you already love him.
On Behalf of a Narcissist's Ex: A Narcissist in the Mist
It seems like my whole life I have been alone, trying desperately to be liked and loved, but never quite reaching that goal. Every one of my relationships were based on me wondering why my man didn't love me, didn't talk to me, didn't share any romance or kindness towards me. Instead it seems like every man in my life was abusive towards me...like they weren't going to be happy until I was beaten and shattered and brought to my knees.
My Narcissist Story: When a Narcissist Ruins Your Reputation (READER STORY TWO) By Anonymous: Okay here goes. It's funny really for a long time I wanted to stand up for myself to tell my side of the story, but nobody cared. Literally NOBODY! It's amazing how unbelievably someone who no one really liked was able to completely destroy my reputation and my life. I'll start at the beginning because it's all so crazy and stupid only linear storytelling can somewhat describe in portion how weird it all was.
A Legend in His Own Mind: This is great - the narc gets what he deserves!
Scammed by Love: 100 Facts, tips and encouragements to help you understand and recover from the narcissist.
Nothing will ever be his fault.
He'll never be there for you. Ever. No matter what.
He will always be the 'tragic' victim.
He will never see you, your need, your love, your pain, your loneliness, your accomplishments. Everything will be about him.
His way or the highway.
He'll never, ever admit being wrong.
He'll be angry with you every single day.
Silent treatments and neglect can and do go on for several weeks at a time, especially if you point out one of his flaws.
When you finally leave, he'll invent stories about you.
While you do everything possible for your relationship; he'll do nothing.
You'll start to felt like you are a 100-years-old.
For more information on surviving a narcissist read my digital reports about my own, ten-year experience of living with a narcissist here, at my narcissist advice website, Breaking Up With Your Narcisist
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...
....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!
The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he once fabricated in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With a Narcissist' downloadable pdf ebooks brought to you by Tigress Luv.