Articles On Dating and Surviving Narcissist and Narcissism
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ARTICLES ON NARCISSIST, NARCISSISM AND NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE
The Narcissist - a Legend
in His Own Mind
According to the
mythological legend, Narcissus fell in love with his reflection.
Narcissus was legended (yes, I made that word up - but it fits soooo
well!) to be an exceptionally cruel man who felt disdain for all those
who loved him. As punishment for this he fell in love with his own
reflection in a pool and subsequently perished alone alongside his
reflection, never being able to leave his own reflection and find a
true love outside of himself. Therefore he was sentenced to die alone
never to have found a real love for himself, either from him or from
Surviving the Narcissist Rage and Narcisstistic Abuse
don’t know about you, but when it comes to surviving a narcissist,
that’s just what I’m doing -- surviving! But, let me tell you, it
ain’t easy to survive one of these!
not confuse narcissism with conceit. Many people make this mistake.
Conceited people and people of overly high self-esteem or exaggerated
self-importance do not always carry traits of narcissism. For instance,
they can take insults, and they can go without admiration or accolades.
Oftentimes --if someone doesn’t like them -- it doesn’t bother them,
and if someone points out a flaw they may take it well, laugh about it,
or even make a mental note to work on themselves to better themselves.
They simply take pride in themselves, whereas a narcissist takes his
very survival as being directly related to his perceived worth via
others views of him.
Narcissist: The Passive Abuser
Passive abuse is just so precisely planned, so psychologically twisted – so mentally extreme – that it’s hard to explain. And even harder to fathom if you’ve never experienced it.
Narcissists Drive you Crazy
Can remaining in emotional control be abuse? It can – and is – when delivered by a narcissist!
Calm, rational level-headedness is a form of abuse, which the abuser uses to make you look crazy and out-of-control, after slowly and methodically driving you there. Once they get you to the breaking point, they get a sick-kick out of watching you 'lose it', all while they are remaining calm and 'keeping it together'.
15 Things a Narcissist Will Never Give Up & Will Never Change
My ex -- a narcissist through-and-through -- used to always say, “If you can't win ‘em over with your charm, then dazzle ‘em with your bullshit” -- a variation of a W.C. Fields quote, and a motto that he lived by as if it were the Golden Rule.
Women Become Bitter
can have their
soft, gentle, feminine innocence knocked right out of them. From Bad
Abusers, to Cheaters, to Users, to Narcissists, the list of creeps out
ready to disarm us is endless. ..
The Ex - The Ultimate Rejection
Definition of 'Ostracism'
- noun: the act of excluding someone from society by general consent
- noun: the state of being banished or ostracized (excluded from
society by general consent)
The Empty, Decayed Heart of
How can one explain a narcissist' heart?
In one word: Absent.
narcissist has an outer core - one of dashing beauty and spectacular
wit, charm and intelligence. This is the 'image', the 'presentation'
that a narcissist displays for his public; his
followers, or his 'charmed circle' are the catalyst which he uses to
bring his image to life. But it is not real. He is not real. There is
no such man as the one he displays; it is only an image that you see.
An illusion. Te narcissist is a Master Illusionist.
Reader's Story I
am in the middle of a painful breakup with a narcissist. We
had been together (if you can call it that) for 2-1/2 years.
He is particularly cunning and deceptive...
Narcissist Much? Spotting a Narcissist BEFORE You End Up Feeding Him His Narcissistic Supply
After being with a narcissist for what seems like forever, I can now spot one a mile away.
Breaking up with a
Narcissist - It is Possible
In certain relationships,
the only answer to the problems is breaking up. One of those
relationships is when one partner is a narcissist. Because of their
personality disorder, they do not realize it when they verbally abuse
- How to Spot it
In Your Man
Because it is so
difficult to get involved in a real relationship anymore, women often
overlook tendencies their man has simply to stay in the relationship.
One of these tendencies that women should not overlook is narcissism.
If your man suffers from this, or shows signs from this, it might be
time to end things with him for your own sake. Many people do not talk
about this trait as being a problem for relationships, but that only is
because they never had to deal with it. It is deeper than the man
simply loving himself. It can cause grave relationship problems.
How to Make a Narcissist Fall in Love with You
I hate to say this, but for some reason I’m thinking that if you purposely choose to be with a narcissist – and if you are attracted to his False-Bing – then you must be a somewhat slightly narcissistic, too. Sorry :(
Signs You are Dating a Narcissist
It is hard enough getting
into and maintaining a relationship these days. There are just so many
different factors involved in today's fast paced world that marriages
and relationships seem more difficult to keep together. This is
especially true for people who show signs of narcissistic behavior. If
all your knowledge of narcissism revolves around people who love only
themselves, you only are partially correct.
Surviving a Narcissist -
Ways to Help You Help Them
Being in a relationship
is difficult work. You have to balance your work and social life in
order to have enough time and effort to put into your relationship.
When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, maintaining that
relationship is even harder. Surviving a narcissist can be extremely
difficult, and at some points impossible. Because they probably spend a
lot of their time putting you down for their own pleasure, you may
start to believe you are the problem in the relationship.
knows someone they believe to be narcissistic. That person is probably
boastful, arrogant, and full of himself to the point that
difficult to be around. It’s too bad he’s so kind
generous, because that makes it impossible to hate him. And
remember, everyone has quirks—that’s hardly a
deprive yourself of their friendship.
Ten Weapons Used By a Narcissist During a Narcissistic Rage
Rages are a way a narcissist gets ‘even’ with you
for making him face
himself or his own imperfections. He often releases his rages
*punishments* onto you by any or all of the following abusive tactics:
up with a histrionic narcissist?
Be prepared for the battle of your life!
While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you
are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life
responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to
mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish
you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined..
Relationship Support - Both Sides Need Support
When you are in a relationship with a narcissistic person, it may be
tempting to convince them into seeking support and treatment from a
medical professional. Although this action is a wise one, you have to
understand that you need support as well. You probably are so used to
hearing his verbal abuse that you are immune to it.
Narcissistic Man: A Rockstar or an Old,
Fat, Washed-up Mouse?
Narcissistic men have perfected their public image. They fear being
compared unfavorably to others. They must be the best! Or are they? Are
they really that good at their game that we can't see how really
unattractive and unappealing they truly are?
FROM PARTNERS WITH 'ISSUES
When we are
rejected from someone we care about - especially if that someone has
'issues', faults, flaws, or personality disorders, we tend to take the
rejection especially hard.
ON NARCISSISM CONTINUED BELOW
Breaking up with
a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While
you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are
left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life
responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to
mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you
couldn't possibly have ever imagined...
even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the
socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!
continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways.
He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup
becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will
completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience
the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in
empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from
you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless
to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use
to put up in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read 'Breaking Up With a Narcissist'
by Tigress Luv
Letter To Her Narcissistic Ex
I don't care who sees this page, and I don't care what they think of
me. You have told them so many twisted lies about me that it really
doesn't matter anymore. People who can't see the truth aren't those I
want to associate with anyway. You know a very sagacious and wise man
nicknamed 'Swami' once said "Let's not burn our bridges"
Men - Why Women
are Attracted to Them
If you ever have dated or
known any narcissistic men, your love and hatred for them probably was
geared toward the same attributes. It is easy to fall in love with this
type of person because you do not realize what they are until it is too
late. Many narcissists greatly lack self-confidence but are able to
hide that by being smooth talkers and overly confident. When you are
starting a relationship with someone like this, it is easy to be
tricked into loving the person they want you to love, not their true
self. In many cases, you do not realize he is narcissistic until you
already love him.
ON BEHALF OF A NARCISSIST'S EX
A Narcissist in the Mist
seems like my whole life I have been alone, trying desperately to be
liked and loved, but never quite reaching that goal. Every one of my
relationships were based on me wondering why my man didn't love me,
didn't talk to me, didn't share any romance or kindness towards me.
Instead it seems like every man in my life was abusive towards
me...like they weren't going to be happy until I was beaten and
shattered and brought to my knees.
Narcissist Story: When a Narcissist Ruins Your Reputation (READER STORY TWO)
here goes.Â It's funny really for a long time I wanted to stand
up for myself to tell my side of the story, but nobody cared.Â
Literally NOBODY!Â It's amazing how unbelievably someone who no
one really liked was able to completely destroy my reputation and my
life.Â I'll start at the beginning because it's all so crazy and
stupid only linear storytelling can somewhat describe in portion how
weird it all was.
wish I had wrote this! Spiritual Recovery From
Narcissistic Abuse - I'm jealous...but it's a must read! And I don't get
impressed that easy! ;)
Legend in His Own Mind
is great - the narc gets what he deserves!
will ever be his fault.
never be there for you. Ever. No matter what.
will always be the 'tragic' victim.
will never see you, your need, your love, your pain, your loneliness,
your accomplishments. Everything will be about him.
way or the highway.
never, ever admit being wrong.
be angry with you every single day.
treatments and neglect can and do go on for several weeks at a
time, especially if you point out one of his flaws.
you finally leave, he'll invent stories about you.
you do everything possible for your relationship; he'll do nothing.
start to felt like you are a 100-years-old.
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