Breaking Up With a Narcissist
In certain relationships, the only answer to the problems is breaking up
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In certain relationships, the only answer
to the problems is breaking up. One of those relationships is when one partner
is a narcissist. Because of their personality disorder, they do not realize
it when they verbally abuse you. This is why breaking up with a narcissist
is often necessary, but difficult to do. It is similar to people who cannot
break up with people who physically abuse them. They know they have to but
they are afraid of what will happen when they do. Once you realize they are
narcissistic, it can be instinct to try to change them. Although you can
get them help, you cannot change them.
Because you love this person, breaking
up with a narcissist is more difficult than you would like it to be. For
your own good, it would be better if you could simply walk away and wash
your hands of the relationship. That is never the case with break ups though.
To start the break up, you have to get into the mindset that the problems
in your relationship are not your fault. This realization could be
earth-shattering for some people. Throughout your entire relationship, you
probably were used to always being told you were the problem when in actuality
it was their narcissism that was at fault.
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle
of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice!
While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life
responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off
his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly
have ever imagined...
even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks
off of new women as if your years together didn't even
ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is
not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality,
it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together
and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him.
He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any
admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as
worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use to put
up in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to join us at our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With
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To start breaking up with a narcissist,
you need to begin distancing yourself from the relationship. Learn not to
take the attacks personal because they are not your fault. Instead of taking
the attacks, which will affect your view of yourself, understand that it
simply is in their make up to attack people. You will be better off without
this personal attacking in your life. Even if you love them, you should not
have to be put down on a constant basis. Love should never be an excuse for
verbal abuse. You are worth more than that and need to find someone who actually
will value your opinions.
Breaking up with a narcissist can be one of the most difficult things anyone
will ever have to do. It really will be a one-sided break up because they
will not be able to understand or realize the behavior they have been emitting.
In their minds, nothing is ever their fault, so you have to prepare yourself
to hear this over and over. It may seem easier to just live with it, but
you have to consider all the mental pain you have been put through.
For more information about breaking up with a narcissist - from someone that
understands how you feel because she has been there - please visit
'Breaking Up With Your Narcissist'.
For more information on surviving a narcissist read my digital report about my own, ten-year experience of living with a narcissist here, at my narcissist advice website, BreakingUpWithYourNarcisist.com
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