How to Make a Narcissist Fall in Love with You

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How to Make a Narcissist Fall in Love with You:
Can You Make a Narcissist Fall in Love with You?

By Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru

I hate to say this, but for some reason I'm thinking that if you purposely choose to be with a narcissist -- and if you are attracted to his False-Bling -- then you must be a somewhat slightly narcissistic, too. Sorry :(

That said, I'm going to be even more brutally honest with you ... making a narcissist fall in love with you ain't never, ever gonna happen. Narcissists don't feel love the way the rest of us do.

A narcissist will never say to him or herself, "I think I'm falling in love with this person." Quite the contrary -- a narcissist will only ask themselves if the person in question is 'worthy' of their time', i.e. "What's in it for me?"

However, you can make a narcissist fall in awe of you ...

....and you can make a narcissist fall IN THE DESIRE TO BE 'SEEN' WITH YOU, but to make a narcissist fall in love with you is an impossible feat.

To attract a narcissist, you only need three things:

1) Something he wants: Money, a beneficial company position, a flashy car, a prominent television show, an influential or renowned family name...etc.

2) Feed his narcissistic ego: The ability to give him a constant drip-feed of adoration, adulation, attention, and admiration.

Never stop being in the 'process' of 'falling' in love.

Now, this is different from actually 'being' in love! 'Falling' in love is an entirely different process. It consists of irrational thinking, idealizing the other partner, and a series of incidents of awe-inspiring 'newly formed revelations' -- or, rather, those 'first discovered things' about each other. (You can only discover these things about each other ONE time, after that you 'know' of them! But that would be a mistake when with a narcissist.) For instance, you cannot keep discovering one's beautiful blue eyes; you cannot keep being amazed by one's repeated stories (or act as if it were the 'first time' you've heard it), you can't constantly be impressed by the way their ringtone sounds...etc. Eventually you will not be such a good catch. Your newness will have worn off and you will start to have minor complaints about each other -- every couple in a relationship does.

Only with the narcissist, complaints about him are not allowed. A constant state of being in awe of him ... and being impressed by him ... is, however, allowed.

3) An intense network of people of 'worth': A wide network of friends or associates of great popularity, or of notoriety who can be beneficial to the narcissist (film producers, the governor, rock stars, investors, talent scouts, booking agents, cruise ship captains, OJ's or Casey Anthony's defense attorneys, etc.)


4) Good looks help: If you're attractive then that's all the better, because he'll look impressive with you on his arm. However, if you have only one of the three previous things, then attractiveness is not necessary, just the icing on his cake.

So, there you have it. Not exactly how to make a narcissist fall in love with you, but a way to attract one to you -- and keep him there for a while.

The rest is downhill from there.

For more information on surviving a narcissist read my digital reports about my own, ten-year experience of living with a narcissist here, at my narcissist advice website, Breaking Up With Your Narcisist

Surviving a Breakup with a Narcissist

Free CSS TemplatesBreaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...

....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he once fabricated in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With a Narcissist' downloadable pdf ebooks brought to you by Tigress Luv.

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Design Blog Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru, has been writing about breakups, relationships, abuse, infidelity, CP, and narcissism for years. You may read more of her articles at Tigress Luv or Read some of her ebooks on narcissism here.

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