Most of us can admit to having certain emotions: sadness, love, fear, surprise, anger, joy. We may not express these feelings openly but we are able to acknowledge them in ourselves and reveal them to those close to us.

One emotion that remains difficult for most of us to admit, even to ourselves, is envy. Envy is an intense resentment of an advantage (lifestyle, physical appearance, social status, wealth, creative gift, etc.) that is enjoyed by another person. This is combined with a strong desire to possess what that person has. We keep envy in the back room. Most of us do not share our envies, even with family or friends. We are embarrassed when we envy someone. We often keep it a secret from ourselves.

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....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use to put up in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read 'Breaking Up With a Narcissist' by Tigress Luv

"There is no one more envious than a narcissist. They covet the beauty, youth...and worldly power of competitors. They plot to get...(what) belongs to someone else. Their envy is venomous." Narcissistic envy eats into him/her. He is determined to get back, surpass and defeat those who have what he wants and feels that he deserves. The roots of narcissistic envy go back to serious inadequacies in the mother/child relationship. As a result of this dysfunctional relationship, the young child experiences a strong aggression that takes the form of envy. The child learns that he cannot depend on anyone despite his facade of superiority, perfection, grandiosity, and self entitlement. The narcissist makes up for his inability to have a genuine relationship by desiring what others have. He devalues other human beings, especially those he views as having more social and financial advantages, or prestige than he has.

The narcissist is relentless. He breaks all the rules to get what he wants. He will ruin professional reputations, disrupt marriages, psychologically and financially sabotage business partners---do whatever it takes to surpass someone else. A common pattern with the narcissist is to pursue a woman or man, marry them and discard them after he finds that they are tarnished and imperfect. The narcissist moves on to a more attractive, adoring partner. This cycle of pursuit, satiation and discarding is endless. Beneath all the bravado---the elaborate mask of superiority, grand delusions, and haughty disdain of others, lies an insatiable hunger for what others have. This burning in the gut cannot be soothed.

AUTHOR CREDIT

Linda Martinez-Lewi holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is a licensed marriage family therapist. She has extensive clinical training in narcissistic and borderline disorders. Dr. Linda Martinez-Lewi is the author of the book "Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life."

Dr. Martinez-Lewi has worked for many years with patients experiencing psychological problems as a result of personal and professional relationships with narcissistic personality disorders. She has clinical experience treating patients suffering from childhood trauma, anxiety disorders, and depression.

Dr. Martinez-Lewi has been interviewed on numerous radio talk shows throughout the country.

Visit her website at: http://www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

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