The Narcissistic Rager
Narcissists attack you in any way they can!
THE TEN WEAPONS USED BY A NARCISSIST DURING A NARCISSISTIC RAGE!
By Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru
Narcissistic Rages are a way a narcissist gets 'even' with you for making him face himself or his own imperfections. He often releases his rages *punishments* onto you by any or all of the following abusive tactics:
Emotional: Emotional abuse can be very subtle. Most people are not even aware of it, until the damage is so deep that it often is permanent. In many case, years later the narcissist's victims still feel the bruises on their souls.
Verbal: My ex was the KING of verbal abuse. "Nobody likes you..." "The neighbors hide in their houses when they see you come outside..." "Aren't you embarrassed to wear that in public?"
Physical: Self-explanatory! Pushing; shoving; pulling; grabbing; hitting; pinching; tripping; slapping; punching; kicking; spitting; restraining; scratching; and biting.
Financial: Cutting off your money, bank access, or your freedom and ability to work. Withholding paychecks, both yours and his, or putting you on an allowance. Hiding assets, bank accounts, savings accounts, safe deposit boxes, property, boats, valuables, etc.
Psychological: Who else but a narcissist can turn your own, personal grievance -- or your need for support or understanding -- into them being 'victimized'... and do it so well that you don't even notice it happening? Have you ever gone to a narcissist with a problem, or the need for love, comfort or support, only to have them become defensive and offensive as if you were attacking THEM and you were being aggressive? Do they tell you things are 'all in your head' or that you 'imagine things'? Do you feel confused most of the time?
Bullying: Talking in a loud, overpowering voice; slamming doors; towering over you; threatening your pets; breaking your stuff; constantly moving into your personal 'space'; dares; ultimatums; or even controlling with subtle or passive aggression. Removing your mode of transportation or removing you from the support of family or friends. Hiding medications or threatening to throw them out.
Stalking: Following you, reading your texts, hacking into your email accounts and social media pages (such as FaceBook, MySpace, Twitter, etc.), bombarding your phone with calls and/or messages, threatening or fraternizing with your friends, 'befriending' your family, sitting outside your place of work, driving by your home, showing up at the same club you're at...all signs of stalking.
Sexual: Withholding sex, or demanding sex.
Withholding Affection: Unaffectionate, disassociating and disrespecting. Not gentle, not kind. Doesn't refer to you by loving 'pet names'. Doesn't show affection with hugs, gentle squeezes, soft kisses, or simple loving gestures like brushing your hair out of your eyes; or he is cold, distant, or rigid and unyielding to you. Neglectful, disregarding and indifferent.
Desertion and Abandonment: Walks out on you, the children, the bills, his job, his lifestyle. Often times a narcissist can start a new life and identity with a new lover with a complete and total disregard to the spouse, his family, and the responsibilities he leaves behind.
You may also want to check out the article, Narcissists and Asymmetrical Walfare
For more information on surviving a narcissist read my digital reports about my own, ten-year experience of living with a narcissist here, at my narcissist advice website, Breaking Up With Your Narcisist
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...
....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!
The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he once fabricated in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With a Narcissist' downloadable pdf ebooks brought to you by Tigress Luv.