If you ever have dated or known any narcissistic men, your love and hatred for them probably was geared toward the same attributes. It is easy to fall in love with this type of person because you do not realize what they are until it is too late. Many narcissists greatly lack self-confidence but are able to hide that by being smooth talkers and overly confident. When you are starting a relationship with someone like this, it is easy to be tricked into loving the person they want you to love, not their true self. In many cases, you do not realize he is narcissistic until you already love him.

Because many women look for a man who is confident and will give them attention, it is easy to mistake those traits in the narcissistic men who cover them up. They do not realize they are narcissists, so they probably do not even realize they are doing anything wrong in the relationship. You, on the other hand, see the behavior as detrimental to the relationship's health. Your partner is not willing to show his true colors to the person he claims to love, which is hard for any woman.

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....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use to put up in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read 'Breaking Up With a Narcissist' by Tigress Luv

Women usually do not realize they are in a relationship with narcissistic men until it is too late. This is not the women's fault. Because narcissistic people want everyone to love them at all times, they will do everything in their power to come off as a wonderful relationship partner. If they led on that they had this disease, you probably would act differently around them. This in turn would cause a drop in his self-confidence because people would view him differently. They know this would happen, so they will keep their behavior a secret as long as possible. Some people are so good at hiding it that people could mistake their few slip ups as just a fight in the relationship and nothing more.

The main reason why so many women are unknowingly attracted to narcissistic men is because the men actually are able to manipulate people into believing what they want them to believe. These people can 'be' anyone you want them to be - or rather, anyone they think you want them to be. Typically they do not care about the feelings of other people, but they will if it will result in attention toward them. These men will do all they can to please you and woo you into the relationship because it will make them look better. Women see this attention as positive for the relationship and end up falling in love.

For more information about breaking up with a narcissist - from someone that understands how you feel because she has been there - please visit 'Breaking Up With Your Narcissist'.

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