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The Narcissist Leaves a Path of Destruction: Can You relate to this abuse from a narcissistic ex?

The Man Sucks - One Woman's Vent to an Abusive Narcissistic Ex
By anonymous

You sit over there in your litter-cluttered Ivory Tower (like father like son; isn't that right N Jr?) on your self-imposed pity-pot and blame me for everything that is wrong in the world. It must be nice to be so completely innocent of ANY WRONG-DOING, huh? In the meantime, I am left here alone to face and deal with the reality of life. The bills. The dogs. The house. Your chewed-up, spit-out leftover crap. You have dumped 'real life' on me, and then locked yourself up in self-righteous indignation. Poor you, you have an old car. Poor you, you have to pay insurance for the first time ever as of this month. Poor you. Poor you, you had to actually pay a BILL - your first ever! Poor you. And all your poor you problems are all my fault, aren't they? Surely, blaming me because your van is old is justifiable. Poor poor you. It's all just sooooooo unjust isn't it? Isn't it, you self-absorbed, egomaniacal IGNORANT waste-of-life?

NOTE (excerpt taken with permission to use and 'alter' from the Lifted Hearts Community): Like all abusers you have a way of twisting things around, and turning issues around, so much so that the women in your life start to feel like they really are going crazy. One of the ways people like you do this is called 'projection'. For all those future Mrs. Bar hopefuls that may be reading this (I'm sure your hungry ego is working on fake charming a few), I will tell them that 'projection' is a process where the abuser takes all his own issues, faults, or flaws, and projects them onto you. It is strange how well he can do this. If you are smart enough you will see that what he says about you (in the future - right now he's still showing you the fake charm) is more likely what he, himself, is guilty of.

The problem is so many of us that are abused eventually begin to believe that we are horrible or crazy. I know I did for a while. This is what happens to victims of emotional, verbal, psychological, or mental abuse. We start to feel depressed, inferior, etc. You don't see it sneaks up on you so slowly that you don't even hear it coming. We walk away from the confrontation - or the relationship - feeling ugly; shameful; needy; insecure; incapable; clumsy; inadequate; can't measure up; unlovable and unloved; nagging; jealous; brow-beating; over-controlling; fat/skinny; butchy; bitchy; insulting; uncaring; stupid; unpopular; and more. I know I walked away from this abusive narcissist feeling this way. It's been a year and I am just now starting to be able to laugh again.

Believe me, the words that were said to me by this old, fat, washed-up mouse more readily applied to him. Controlling. Angry. Bitter. Manic-depressive. Self-centered. Self-pitying. Self-absorbed. Demanding. Never happy. Mistrusting. Unloyal. Dramatic. Out of control. Insecure. Uncaring. Predator. Exaggerating.

You know, I simply had a webpage about abuse (by the way this is now my new webpage thanks to your self-focused, one-way distorted thought process). If you found parallels between yourself and an abuser, so be it (just to prove a point, if you didn't notice it in your speciosity that webpage was written by ALBERT J. BERNSTEIN, Ph.D and credit was given to such at the bottom. I did not write that page!).. But to be so abusive about it, and so ME, ME, ME about it - well! People really need to know what a phony you are. Even to your own family. You are one sick man. I thought about what I would say here. After the silent abuse I took from you for years to protect your fake public identity. The abuse so deep that I had a suicide letter written to each of my children. Abuse so deep that I ended up in the hospital and abuse so deep that I got shingles. But you never saw the result of what you did - you were too busy making up lies about me and my children to protect yourself from being at fault, and too busy absorbed in your martyrdom. Too busy with protecting your self-image to see that you, yourself, can't even see the truth anymore. But when I finally mustered up the nerve to leave you - to leave MY OWN HOUSE and CHILDREN just to get away from the hell of you - I still thought I had to protect you, and for some BLIND, unknown reason you still had my devotion, too (can you say Stockholm Syndrome?).

Yes, I could have sat here and wrote of the damage you have done to me, or to other's in your life, because of your lack of soul. But you wouldn't have heard those words because they would haven't been about YOU - but rather about ME or THEM - and you only do 'YOU'. You are too into 'self' to see anything outside of 'you'. (Point in hand, the eve of my friend Neet's memorial service when everybody went next store to the club after the service, you later shallowly told me "What a horrible gig to get through, playing to all those gloomy people. I don't know why those people had to go there and ruin my night." ) So, hey, I'm just telling it like it is about YOU. I know you will listen to these words because I'm writing about 'YOU'...and I'm sure you will listen to it with the narcissistic reaction of "what will people think about me should they read this" and not with the human factor of "wow, did I really do that to her - almost drive her to suicide?" You created a world of hell and devastation, but that doesn't matter to you because some nameless person wants to hear a song that you now have to learn because you are all about impression to strangers and acceptance by people that aren't really that important in reality...or maybe the hell and devastation doesn't matter to you because your van needs oil. All I know is you have no soul, just a fake phony image. You spread vicious, cruel lies about me and my children to protect your fabricated persona. Your whole world is a lie and your whole life from thirteen up has been a sham. Take away your 'phony' charm and your guitar (which, by the way, the older you get [black balloons] the more ridiculous your exaggerated overplaying looks - stomach turning) and you don't even have substance.

It's about time I stood up for myself and stopped taking your insane crap! I tried to understand you for so long...I thought maybe 'early Alzheimer's' or even thought that maybe lack of oxygen to your brain during surgery or from clogged arteries caused you to go even more haywire than you already were...but hey, there is NO making sense of the senseless. Why don't you go back to where you spawned from you paranoid schizophrenic?

Since I know you so well I'm sure right about now you are devising all kinds of evil ways to get back at me for this ranging from murder to car theft - revenge is your forte. Didn't you use to always threaten to get your 'biker' friends to beat my children and I up? But, I got SHIT on you, lots and lots of CRAP on you. Remember that, you self-focused, oblivious monster.

Nothing about you is healthy or normal. Rot in hell, you hostile old, fat, washed-up mouse (thank you, Tigress, for that analogy LOL!).

this page will remain until you acknowledge a healthy reality. In other words...

this page will remain until the hell you put me through freezes over

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Surviving a Breakup with a Narcissist

Free CSS TemplatesBreaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...

....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he once fabricated in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With a Narcissist' downloadable pdf ebooks brought to you by Tigress Luv.

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