The Narcissist May Be a Lonely Man
Narcissists project a fake image; does this mean that nobody really knows the real man underneath enough to love him?
SURVIVING A NARCISSIST - Ways to Help You Help Them
By Breaking Up With Your Narcissist
Being in a relationship is difficult work. You have to balance your work and social life in order to have enough time and effort to put into your relationship. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, maintaining that relationship is even harder. Surviving a narcissist can be extremely difficult, and at some points impossible. Because they probably spend a lot of their time putting you down for their own pleasure, you may start to believe you are the problem in the relationship. If you alter your thinking and do research on the disorder, surviving the relationship will be somewhat more manageable.
The first step for anyone surviving a narcissist needs to be that they realize that narcissism is a disorder that affects people's personalities. The narcissist is not aware that they are acting this way, nor is it their intentions to cause harm to people. Once you understand this you can understand that their actions have absolutely nothing to do with you or your own actions. It may appear as if they act out because of something you did or did not do, but that is all in their minds. You have to be able to step back from the relationship and not take this personally. They are not attacking you, but rather their alter ego is attacking you.
Having this mind set does not mean you
are encouraging their behavior. Surviving a narcissist does not mean giving
into them. You have to be ready for a fight from them because you will not
be feeding their egos. Because they probably do not know they are narcissistic,
they will not understand why you are acting that way. Getting them professional
help is a step in the right direction. They will resist in the beginning.
Think of the situation as a drug or alcohol addiction issue. They do not
believe they have a problem usually until after they are seeking help.
Surviving a narcissist will not be easy, but it is something that is better than sitting back and taking the verbal abuse they give you. In order to get the best results, it is vital that you show them support the entire way. You cannot be negative toward their actions at all because they view this as a fight against themselves. Working with a mental health professional will get the best results than going at it alone because they have the knowledge and training to help.
For more information on surviving a narcissist read my digital reports about my own, ten-year experience of living with a narcissist here, at my narcissist advice website, Breaking Up With Your Narcisist
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice! While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly have ever imagined...
....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!
The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he once fabricated in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read our 'Breaking Up & Dealing With a Narcissist' downloadable pdf ebooks brought to you by Tigress Luv.