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Surviving a Narcissist - Ways to Help
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Being in a relationship is difficult work.
You have to balance your work and social life in order to have enough time
and effort to put into your relationship. When you are in a relationship
with a narcissist, maintaining that relationship is even harder. Surviving
a narcissist can be extremely difficult, and at some points impossible. Because
they probably spend a lot of their time putting you down for their own pleasure,
you may start to believe you are the problem in the relationship. If you
alter your thinking and do research on the disorder, surviving the relationship
will be somewhat more manageable.
The first step for anyone surviving a
narcissist needs to be that they realize that narcissism is a disorder that
affects people's personalities. The narcissist is not aware that they are
acting this way, nor is it their intentions to cause harm to people. Once
you understand this you can understand that their actions have absolutely
nothing to do with you or your own actions. It may appear as if they act
out because of something you did or did not do, but that is all in their
minds. You have to be able to step back from the relationship and not take
this personally. They are not attacking you, but rather their alter ego is
Breaking up with a histrionic narcissist? Be prepared for the battle
of your life! While you are an emotional basketcase, he is as Cold as Ice!
While you are left holding down the fort and dealing with the real-life
responsibilities, he walks away from everything leaving you to mop off
his stage and pay his bills. He will punish you in ways you couldn't possibly
have ever imagined...
even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks
off of new women as if your years together didn't even
ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is
not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality,
it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together
and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him.
He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any
admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as
worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use to put
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Having this mind set does not mean you
are encouraging their behavior. Surviving a narcissist does not mean giving
into them. You have to be ready for a fight from them because you will not
be feeding their egos. Because they probably do not know they are narcissistic,
they will not understand why you are acting that way. Getting them professional
help is a step in the right direction. They will resist in the beginning.
Think of the situation as a drug or alcohol addiction issue. They do not
believe they have a problem usually until after they are seeking help.
Surviving a narcissist will not be easy, but it is something that is better
than sitting back and taking the verbal abuse they give you. In order to
get the best results, it is vital that you show them support the entire way.
You cannot be negative toward their actions at all because they view this
as a fight against themselves. Working with a mental health professional
will get the best results than going at it alone because they have the knowledge
and training to help.
For more information about surviving a narcissist - from someone that
understands how you feel because she has been there - please visit
'Breaking Up With Your Narcissist'.
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