The narcissist has the singular ability to present two completely different personas to different segments of people that he interacts with and to get away with this "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hydean" pattern of behavior.

When in his Dr. Jekyll mode he is charming, seemingly thoughtful and downright charismatic. This mode is presented to the general public and individuals he is wooing whether or not the wooing is personal and even sexual or purely business or even politics. A "good" narcissist could often be successful as a professional actor and in fact is performing effectively on the "stage of life."

The Mr. Hyde mode surfaces when the narcissist is in what he perceives as a safe harbor where he can get away with outrageous and abusive behavior. Safe harbors include the privacy of his home and the environment of his own business where he has real or perceived power to control other people without fear of being exposed.

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....and not even acknowledge it to himself! Why? Because he's off charming the socks off of new women as if your years together didn't even exist!

The narcissistic ex continually acts in abusive, bewildering and confusing ways. He is not above committing destructive acts. When the breakup becomes a reality, it is likely that his 'false persona' will completely disappear all together and you will most likely experience the most hurtful of behavior from him. He is completely lacking in empathy, and - since he is not receiving any admiration from you anymore - he will dismiss you and discard you as worthless to him, consequently dropping any fake front that he use to put up in order to keep you in the relationship. Click here to read 'Breaking Up With a Narcissist' by Tigress Luv

Another form of the two faces of narcissism is in the financial arena. Narcissistic businessmen often get away with simultaneously "stiffing" many creditors while actually raising money from others. This is done by ingenious structuring of separate legal entities which can range from local limited liability companies to off-shore companies. At any given time there is a favorite exotic off-shore "location du jour" whether it be the Cayman Islands or more recently, the Isle of Man.

Whether it is one's personal or professional life, it is important for the victims of these two-faced narcissists to recognize these patterns of behavior so as to better protect themselves.

AUTHOR CREDIT

Linda Martinez-Lewi holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is a licensed marriage family therapist. She has extensive clinical training in narcissistic and borderline disorders. Dr. Linda Martinez-Lewi is the author of the book "Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life."

Dr. Martinez-Lewi has worked for many years with patients experiencing psychological problems as a result of personal and professional relationships with narcissistic personality disorders. She has clinical experience treating patients suffering from childhood trauma, anxiety disorders, and depression.

Dr. Martinez-Lewi has been interviewed on numerous radio talk shows throughout the country.

Visit her website at: http://www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

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