Robert Wilson 3. Reclaim Your Power When my friend Jenna left her narcissistic partner, she hit rock bottom. For weeks, she cried herself to sleep, thinking she wasn’t enough. Then one day, she decided to take back control. Jenna started going to the gym, pursued her passion for painting, and reconnected with old friends. Within months, her … Read more
6. Focus on Your Appearance Let’s not sugarcoat it: narcissists are shallow. When Sandra revamped her wardrobe and got a fresh haircut, her narcissistic ex couldn’t resist. He sent her a DM saying, “Wow, you’ve changed,” followed by a flurry of compliments. Sandra wasn’t doing it for him—she wanted to feel good about herself. But … Read more
9. Showcase Success Success is like catnip to narcissists. When Thomas landed a big promotion and casually mentioned it on LinkedIn, his narcissistic ex—who had ghosted him for weeks—suddenly slid into his DMs with a “Congrats! Let’s catch up.” Narcissists love associating with winners, so let your accomplishments do the talking. 8. Control the Narrative … Read more
12. Trigger Their Jealousy This one’s tricky but effective. A subtle social media post with new friends or a casual mention of someone who values you can work wonders. When James casually posted a picture of himself at a dinner party, his narcissistic ex commented, “Looks like fun—who’s that next to you?” The jealousy was … Read more
When you’ve been through narcissistic abuse, you might find yourself feeling paranoid. Paranoia creeps in, making you question everything—your safety, your friends, and even your own mind. It’s like your brain is stuck on high alert, constantly searching for signs of danger. The emotional manipulation and gaslighting you experienced can leave a lasting mark, making … Read more
Reason #07: Seeking Validation Narcissists rely heavily on external validation to feel good about themselves. After a breakup, they might return to former partners to reclaim that validation, seeking reassurance that they are still desirable and valued. Reason #06: Loneliness and Isolation Breakups can leave narcissists feeling isolated and lonely. They may return to their … Read more
Reason #04: The Thrill of the Chase Narcissists often thrive on the excitement of the chase. The initial breakup might spark a desire to “win” their partner back, especially if they believe their ex-partner has moved on. This chase provides a thrill that narcissists crave. Reason #03: Past Trauma and Insecurity Many narcissists have unresolved … Read more
After facing narcissistic abuse, it’s normal to struggle with overthinking. I remember how my mind would race, replaying every detail of the relationship. But over time, I learned that understanding overthinking is the first step to controlling it. Aspect Details Definition Obsessive thoughts about past events, decisions, or interactions. Types of Overthinking Rumination (dwelling on … Read more
Dating someone who’s survived narcissistic abuse can be deeply rewarding, but it also comes with unique challenges. Survivors often carry the weight of past trauma, and understanding what they’ve been through helps both partners build a healthier connection. If you’re dating someone who has experienced emotional manipulation, this guide will walk you through signs they’re … Read more
Leaving a narcissistic relationship can feel like finally stepping into the sunlight after years of darkness. Narcissistic abuse leaves deep wounds — it’s not just about lost time, but also emotional scars that run deep. Those who’ve been through it know that the impact goes beyond the breakup; it touches self-esteem, trust, and one’s sense … Read more