12. Trigger Their Jealousy
This one’s tricky but effective. A subtle social media post with new friends or a casual mention of someone who values you can work wonders. When James casually posted a picture of himself at a dinner party, his narcissistic ex commented, “Looks like fun—who’s that next to you?” The jealousy was palpable, and it brought her back into his orbit.
11. Appeal to Their Vanity
Compliments can be like breadcrumbs for a narcissist. My neighbor Sophie discovered this when she ran into her ex at a party. Instead of being cold, she said, “You always had a way with words.” That single compliment led to a week of messages from him. Narcissists crave validation, but doling it out sparingly keeps them hooked.
10. Stay Mysterious
The unknown drives a narcissist wild. My coworker Chris kept his plans vague after his breakup. When his ex asked, “What have you been up to?” he simply replied, “Oh, just working on something exciting.” The intrigue made her chase him to find out more.
Robert Wilson is a former narcissist who transformed his life through deep self-reflection and personal growth. His journey led him to study narcissism, mental health, and human psychology in depth, gaining expertise in Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
His work focuses on raising awareness, educating others, and providing insights into overcoming narcissistic behaviors, making him a respected voice in the field of personality disorders and mental health.