6. Focus on Your Appearance
Let’s not sugarcoat it: narcissists are shallow. When Sandra revamped her wardrobe and got a fresh haircut, her narcissistic ex couldn’t resist. He sent her a DM saying, “Wow, you’ve changed,” followed by a flurry of compliments. Sandra wasn’t doing it for him—she wanted to feel good about herself. But the transformation piqued his interest and pulled him back.
5. Build an Intriguing Social Circle
There’s something irresistible about being surrounded by people who admire you. Take it from Mark, who joined a local hiking club after his breakup. He posted pictures with his new friends, laughing and living his best life. His narcissistic ex suddenly started messaging, “Who are all these new people?” Mark had shifted the power dynamic by showing he didn’t need her validation.
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4. Be Unpredictable
Routine bores a narcissist, so keep them guessing. When my friend Ellie stopped replying to texts instantly and started posting about her spontaneous adventures, her narcissistic ex took notice. “What’s gotten into you?” he asked. Ellie didn’t give him the satisfaction of an answer, leaving him intrigued. Narcissists crave control, and unpredictability throws them off balance.
Robert Wilson is a former narcissist who transformed his life through deep self-reflection and personal growth. His journey led him to study narcissism, mental health, and human psychology in depth, gaining expertise in Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
His work focuses on raising awareness, educating others, and providing insights into overcoming narcissistic behaviors, making him a respected voice in the field of personality disorders and mental health.